By Jill Roberts
Most people ignore certain facts in their version of a story that might incriminate their involvement. I’ve been guilty of this in the past myself. It’s not a new human revelation. Thus the old adage that the truth is found somewhere in the middle of various versions of a story.
Leaving out incriminating facts is not always intentional; human instinct is to protect us from finding fault in ourselves. Our ego prefers to distract us from taking ownership of our faults by focusing on the unsavory acts of others instead. Unfortunately, self-reflection isn’t an immediate response, and only develops with conscious practice.
I find myself in a situation where I’ve elected not to reveal my side of a story, because I feel those who quickly acted in judgement don’t care to know the truth, as much as they care to believe what suits their ego. My time and energy is better suited in self-reflection, so that I may learn and grow from an experience that admittedly was not my best act.
I’ve been in this place before, and it took many years for all of the facts to naturally surface—Life has a funny way of uncovering what’s left buried. I share this, because I know there are some of you reading this that are in the same situation, and I commend you for not getting wrapped up in ego drama. To use an analogy, continuing to add ingredients to a pot after the opinions have been served, won’t change the flavor of the soup in the bowls.